Grief
The grieving process is going to be different for every individual person. This also includes the amount of difficulty they have getting through it.
When something happens that creates grief for a person, they go through a process of healing stages. These stages are the steps of recovering from the pain they’ve endured and takes them through a tough journey to become balanced again.
A loss of a loved one, pet, relationship, or anything that creates an empty space in the person’s life can create grief for a person. It’s not the same for everyone either. One person may not be affected by a situation at all, where another may fall completely apart.
No matter what causes the grief, there’s a recovery process that the body and mind go through both emotionally and physically. Everyone goes through the process in one way or another. Again, they might not go through the grieving process the same way or in the same order but everyone still goes through the stages.
It typically begins with a sensation of disbelief or a numbness that misleads the body so the enteral shock doesn’t wreak havoc within the organs of the body.
Then there’s a fear, emptiness or loss feeling, that can turn into a surge of anger. This anger can be towards the person who is believed to be the cause of the pain or loss, right down to being angry at themself for allowing the circumstances to happen. For some it’s not being strong enough to change what happened or maybe it’s one of the many other reason’s people can come up with. Some are angry thinking to themselves, “why did this happen to me!”. Either way, people will handle every stage differently.
Some people skip right to the loneliness stage. This is when the person begins to feel like they’re completely alone, even if there’s others around them. They can’t help the feeling but they truly feel isolated from everything and everyone.
Some experience the caged animal feeling… this is where the person doesn’t want to be where they’re at. As if they need to leave and get out before they self-combust. Yet, when they do, they don’t have any idea where they want to go because they ultimately didn’t want to leave their original spot, so the next thing they’re doing, is going right back to the place they’ve just left. This stage can leave a person thinking they’re going insane but they’re not. It’s just another step through the process of grief.
The only good thing about the grieving process is, all of these stages are perfectly normal and everyone has or will go through at some point in their lifetime in one form or another.
The grieving process can cause people to go into depression, have anxiety, and a ton of other issues which can actually lead to serious health problems for some.
There are many different stages of grief and not all of them are ones that people go through. Another form of grief is having guilt. It’s where the person truly feels guilty for feeling or not feeling the way they think they should. Even this is a normal stage when going through grief but the person still has that heaviness of remorse.
Getting through the stages of grief are difficult and rough but it does help a little to know that all of these different feelings, that are being experienced, are completely normal.
They’ll come and go as if it’s a roller coaster ride with the ups and downs being the good moments and bad. As time passes, those moments can turn into good days and bad days but everything takes time. Especially healing, which is what the grieving process does for us.
Never assume that it should take a specific length of time and it’ll be over because there’s no accuracy on a timeline for grief. Grief does not recognize time at all. There are no set rules for this process nor anyway of skipping past it. When it comes, it’s like a title wave of emotions hitting so hard you have no idea what Direction you’re facing nor if you are up or down.
Try to just take it slow and steady, one moment at a time and day by day, until you start to feel the solid ground beneath your feet again.
Some people find it helpful to have a supportive group of people who can be there for them when needed. Others are more comfortable with going to a counselor or therapist. Where others find working through it on their own time through different activities like meditation, yoga, Reiki and such, helps them most.
No matter how the person gets through it as long as they do something to help themselves, they’ll be alright.
So, be caring for anyone who crosses your path. They just might be going through some type of grieving process that you don’t know about.
Remember, one day… it might be you going through it.
~Best of Health & Positive Energy, ~ Healing Feather Wellness ~ “Balancing Body, Mind & Spirit” ~ ©2020
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